HAVING AN AFFAIR, INFIDELITY& ADULTERY IS AN ATOM BOMB DROPPED IN THE MIDDLE OF A LIFE at least it feels that way… If your life (or the life of someone you care about) has been affected by infidelity: First - let us say how sorry we are. Second - let us share with you two truths:
COUPLES CAN HEAL! Marriages can not only survive, but THRIVE!
You can Love again!You can Trust again!
You can have true Intimacy! You can have a relationship you will both cherish for a lifetime!
We know it’s true because we did it! And we know hundreds of other couples that have done it as well. There is healing after an affair! Perhaps you’re sitting there reading these words but unable to believe they could be true.We understand that.In the early days of our own recovery we didn’t know if healing could be accomplished much less have any idea of how to do it.May we offer you some suggestions as to how to begin? 1)Take a look at this website.There is a lot of good information and suggested resources to help you navigate the healing process after infidelity. We also have audio and video resources on the “Free Resources” page that address some of the common questions couples ask. 2)Educate yourself about the healing process.The truth is that not all experts agree on the best way to heal from infidelity so you may hear some opinions that differ on how to walk through your healing process.We’ve been working with therapists, pastors and counselors for over 10 years and what we’ve discovered is that there is no “one way” to heal after an affair.The only two requirements in our opinion is that whatever you choose, it must be biblical and it must work for "both" of you. Of course, you want your choices to be the healthiest for your marriage, so again, educate yourself.We have several suggestions under “Recommended Resources.”
3)Enlist godly counsel.Adultery is considered by therapists to be the second most difficult marriage issue to resolve.That doesn’t mean impossible – it just means that it is a biggie.Therefore, most of us need help to get through the recovery after infidelity.We sure did.Professional Christian counseling is something we recommend.But we also know that sometimes that can be difficult to obtain.We have some guide lines on how to find professional and lay counsel under “How to find a Counselor.” We want you to know that you do not have to be alone on this journey.We believe, we know, there is help for you in the body of Christ and we are here for you also.More importantly, we know that the God of all creation, the God of our salvation, the God that loves you is sufficient for even this.He has the power to offer new life to all who believe and He has the power to offer new life for your marriage.Seek Him.He is there even when it doesn’t feel like it.